Introducing one customized program of The Power Of Choice School Program Curriculum to the Parents - and How it Works
Knowing how to loose weight isn’t the same thing as doing it. Knowledge can be power, but it’s not always enough. Some people need structure, accountability, the power of community. Creating a healthy habit club.
This is a phenomenal turn out for an evening program. There is really something special about this school community. Thanking the Community For Supporting Their Kids
Not going to get into a lot of war stories. Talking about the various bad habits that I have broken free of. Breaking Free Of My Own Bad Habits Is How I Learned To Help Kids.
I used to be a very successful corporate recruiter. I always wondered why I kept becoming addicted. What is the cause of addiction? Some say that you’re born with it. Are Bad Habits and Addictions Something You’re Born With?
What kind of a message are we sending our kids when we tell them they have the ‘addiction gene’. Is there a more positive way to approach it? Do we want our kids to think they are powerless in the face of addiction?
You’ve heard that people that are abused as kids become addicts. You’ve heard that people who are poor become addicts. Is that the case? Investigating some of the myths around the cause of addiction.
Looking from a different direction. Maybe the choices I made led me to become an addict. This is a more empowering way to look at your own problems. See the different view I took in analyzing my own destructive habits.
We shape our own lives. Our choices are ultimately our own responsibility. Getting rid of the victim mentality, and learning the Power of Choice, is a key to changing your life.
Blaming, complaining and victimhood are the root of self-sabotage. We use our compulsions to distract us from the things that we blame and complain about.
In life, stuff happens, then we make it mean something. People with the most self-destructive habits all share a core belief that there is something fundamentally wrong with them. That they are broken.
Even people that grow up in perfect homes in perfect circumstances will find a way to self-destructive habits, if they want to escape this core belief that something is wrong with them.
One of the difficulties with treating destructive habits is that we tend to replace one with another. Drinking habits are replaced with smoking. Smoking is replaced by overeating. This is the main downfall of traditional 12-step programs.
This is an example from my own life, which I have found to be the root of all my self-destructive habits. See how the meaning we ascribe to things that happen lead us to thinking that something is wrong with us.
It’s not the things that happen to us that become the tragedies of our lives. It’s what we make those things mean to us.
When a child thinks that there is something wrong with them, we can see the beginnings of self destructive habits as they try to compensate for what they think is wrong with them. Compensating for being “broken” by becoming an overachiever.
The dangers of eating suger. Sugar is the most addictive drug on the planet. If you don’t believe me, google it.
Kids can feel it when an adult they care about stops trusting them. Even if the adult has no reason to. Losing the trust-connection with adults when you are a child.
Once again, the tragedy isn’t what happens, but what the meaning that the kids give to it. More on kids ascribing the wrong meaning to events.
Is it true that when addicts are withdrawing, they get very angry and sometimes violent? The blaming and shaming that addicts do to others.